One way Love
BY GENEVA WOODRUFF
Harriet is a cocker spaniel and my best friend. We have been meeting at the park every day for years. The days I arrive before her, I often chat with Jeffrey, who is a beagle. Recently, I was told that Jeffrey had a crush on me. At first, I didn’t give it much thought. Then I realized that Jeffrey was still at the door, waiting to greet me as soon as our car pulled into the parking lot. I think Jeffrey’s mom and my mom didn’t help the situation by saying what a lovely couple we are and what a shame we were fixed. Yesterday they were talking about Jeff and I having weekend play dates. I like Jeffrey enough to chat a bit, but I have no interest in our relationship going any further. How can I nip this situation in the bud and tell him how I feel without hurting him?
You get many pushbacks from all sides. Jeffrey wants a girlfriend, and your mom and Jeffrey’s mom want happily ever after and little dogs.
Maybe Harriet could talk to Jeffrey and tell him what it’s all about. If she feels uncomfortable speaking to him directly, she might speak to one of her friends and suggest that they pass the message on to Jeffrey. From what you tell me, Jeffrey has a lot to offer as a boyfriend. He can hold a conversation, has a purebred pedigree and comes from a good family. Many parents would kill to have him as a son-in-law. You could discreetly ask around the park to see if anyone has an eye on him. I would be surprised if there weren’t several women who would be happy to date him. Jeffrey may be so focused on you, Celeste, that he may not realize he’s a good catch. All it would take to take his attention away from you is someone saying, “Jeff, Penny the poodle, or Ginger the whippet think you’re adorable.” She would like to know you better. If Jeffrey is still discouraged when he hears you’re a no-go, at the very least he’ll know there are plenty of dogs in the sea.